We live in a world now where things that were once common sense are now openly questioned. More, you are condemned if you dare to question what the world now believes.
For example, according to the world’s standard, the ideas of “male” and “female” are just a social construct.
According to the world, these ideas of “male” and “female” have no objective basis in reality. As a result, we can define “male” and “female” however we want to.
People also are now questioning what marriage is. It used to be assumed by almost all that marriage is between one man and one woman. This is no longer the case.
But we do not follow the world’s standards. We follow Jesus’. What did Jesus say?
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that he who created them in the beginning made them male and female, and he also said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh?” (Matthew 19:3-5)
According to Jesus, how did he create us? As male and female. Gender is not something that humans thought up. It is something God created.
According to Jesus, what is marriage? It is a man leaving his father (male) and mother (female) and being joined to his wife (female).
And there is no arguing with Jesus. He will not compromise his standards. We see that when the disciples tried to argue about his standard for marriage, that it was to be for life. They said,
If the relationship of a man with his wife is like this, it’s better not to marry. (10)
Jesus’ answer?
Not everyone can accept this saying. (11)
When he says, “this saying,” Jesus is not talking about his teaching on marriage. He’s talking about about the idea that it’s better not to marry.
And he says, “Not everyone can be happy living single. Some choose to be single so they can serve God’s kingdom better. If they’re happy with being single, great!
“Others, because of physical problems, can’t get married.
“But whatever their situation, if they can accept what you said, and think it’s better to be single, that’s fine. But if they want to get married, they need to accept what I have taught. There is no middle ground.”
Those are hard words. And I believe Jesus has great compassion for those who love him and yet struggle with his words.
He has compassion for those who give up on the idea of marriage because they grew up in broken families and they worry that if they get married, it won’t go well.
He has compassion for those who struggle with homosexual feelings and feel they can’t get married as a result.
He has compassion on those who struggle with their gender identity.
And so as Christians, we too are to have great compassion on those who struggle in these ways.
But the answer is not to change Jesus’ standards. We are to hold to the standards that he has taught.
The struggles we have are not because his standards are wrong. The struggles we have are because we are people broken by sin.
The good news is that for those who belong to Christ, these struggles will not last forever. For as John said,
Dear friends, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet been revealed.
We know that when he appears, we will be like him because we will see him as he is. (1 John 3:2)
So let us never compromise our Lord’s standards. Rather, holding to the future hope we have, let us purify ourselves just as Jesus is pure. (1 John 3:3)