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Psalms

Dwelling in self-pity

Psalm 137 is one of the more depressing psalms in the book, a lament apparently written during the Babylonian captivity.

It pictures the psalmist sitting by the rivers of Babylon, harp in hand, but so depressed by the fall of Jerusalem that he had lost all desire to play it. So instead, he just hangs it on a nearby tree as he mourns over Jerusalem.

Then some of the Babylonians happen by to poke fun at the Jews, saying, “Come on! Sing some songs for us. Entertain us with the songs you used to sing in Jerusalem.”

But the psalmist refused, saying, “How can I sing such songs here in Babylon? How can I show such utter disrespect for the land I love by doing so? I’d rather lose all my skill in the harp and become a mute than do that.”

He then closes by calling curses on Edom and Babylon.

On Edom because though they were brothers (that is, the ancestors of Edom were Esau and the ancestors of Israel Jacob), Edom had rejoiced in Israel’s fall.

On Babylon because of all the atrocities that they poured down upon Jerusalem, even to the killing of Israel’s children. So the psalmist curses them, asking that they would receive what they themselves had dealt to others.

How often do we feel as the psalmist did? We’re down and out, mostly, if not entirely, because of our own sin. Our own family mocks us, and those who hate us just pour salt in our wounds, saying, “Where is this Lord you serve now?”

How do we respond to all this?

We have a choice. We can stay where we are in self-pity, mourning over what we’ve lost, and simply give in to bitterness. But if we do so, we’ll waste away physically and spiritually.

Or we can repent and turn our faces to God as people like Daniel and Nehemiah did.

If we do, God will restore the ruins we’ve made of our lives. And in doing so, he will restore our joy.

What will you do?

The choice is yours.

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Jeremiah

Spiritual pitfalls: The trap of self-pity

Sometimes when following God gets hard, it becomes easy to complain.

“Why is this happening to me? I don’t understand. I thought that if I followed you, all would go well. Why are you allowing this to happen?”

And that’s how Jeremiah felt. Once again, he felt the sting of rejection and persecution from his own people.

As a result, he started to face doubts about what he was doing for God, saying,

Why is my pain unending and my wound grievous and incurable?

Will you be to me like a deceptive brook, like a spring that fails? (Jeremiah 15:18)

In other words, “I’m suffering here. Can’t you see? Are you truly going to help me? Or will you let me down like so many others have in the past?”

But once again, God doesn’t allow Jeremiah to wallow in his own self-pity. Rather, he challenges him, saying,

Therefore this is what the Lord says: “If you repent, I will restore you that you may serve me; if you utter worthy, not worthless, words, you will be my spokesman.

Let this people turn to you, but you must not turn to them.

I will make you a wall to this people, a fortified wall of bronze; they will fight against you but will not overcome you, for I am with you to rescue and save you,” declares the Lord.

“I will save you from the hands of the wicked and redeem you from the grasp of the cruel.” (Jeremiah 15:19–21)

Put simply, “Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Walk away from your pity party so that I can use you. Stop your complaining, and instead speak the words I give you.

“These people around you would have you become like them, but you must not. Instead, you must make them bend to you.

“They may fight against you and persecute you, but they will not overcome you. I will rescue you.

“So take your eyes off of yourself, and put them on me where they belong.”

How about you? Do you wallow about in self-pity when things get hard because you’re serving God?

Satan loves that, because it makes you utterly useless to God. Satan wants you to focus on yourself, because when you do, it’s impossible to focus on God or the people around you.

Let us not be people that focus on ourselves and our own troubles.

Rather, as the writer of Hebrews says,

Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart. (Hebrews 12:2–3)